meet Inorri O’Neal, illustrator

In April and May of this year, I had the pleasure of working with the 4th grade students at Oakton Elementary School in Evanston, IL. The students I meet are always special, unique in a variety of unexpectedly delightful ways. In this post, I want you to meet one of Oakton’s rare gems — Inorri.
After hearing the story of The Golden Arm, Inorri O’Neal approached me. “Ms. Black, I can illustrate that story for you.”
“Really?” I asked. And then she handed me a picture.

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Inorri did not exaggerate. There was the old man long in search of a wife. There was the one woman in all the land — not too tall or too short, not too talkative or too quiet, not too old or too young — who would make a ‘just right’ wife. Since the old man had two wishes — to marry and to be rich — the fact that his future bride happened to have a golden arm made her doubly attractive.
A collaboration was born. Right then and there Inorri committed to working on more pictures. With borrowed paint and a creative mind, the illustrations began to take shape.
The old woman had often questioned her husband. “Is it me you love? Or is it my golden arm?” He would always reassure her that it was his wife he loved. “Then promise me.” she said. “If I should happen to die before you, promise me you will bury me with my golden arm.”
“Of course, my love. Of course I will bury you with your golden arm.”
As fate would have it, the woman did die before her husband. He wore the blackest of black clothes and the saddest of sad faces as he took her to the cemetery to be buried — with her golden arm.
Here’s Inorri’s illustration of  this part of the story.

When the old man returned to the empty house, sat in his rocking chair, and stared at the empty rocking chair beside him, it was then that he realized, “Why? Why? Why did I bury my wife with her golden arm? I could be a rich man if I had that arm! I will return to the cemetery and retrieve it from her coffin.” Under cover of darkness, he scurried to the cemetery and began to dig.
Here’s Inorri’s illustration of the cemetery scene.

In  his haste to return to his home, carrying the golden arm close to his body, the old man forgot to close the lid on the coffin. The ghost of his dead wife escaped and went in search of the golden arm.
He thought it was the wind blowing through the trees at first. But the soft whisper grew to an angry chant. Over and over again, coming closer and closer he heard, “Where’s my golden arm?”
He hid in the closet, certain he would not be found hiding there.

But of course he was found. The sound of his wife’s voice screaming, “You’ve got my golden arm!” was the last thing the old man ever heard. The neighbors who found him dead on the closet floor a few days later could only shake their heads sadly and murmur, “Poor man. He died of a broken heart.”
We know differently, of course. But whether he died of fright or at the hand of his wife’s ghost, we may never know.

In true storytelling tradition Inorri added her own, new, ending to the story. The wife, free to roam the earth, sailed to Africa where she lived quite happily ever after.

And guess who else is living happily ever after?
That would be me — lucky enough to work with the 4th graders at Oakton Elementary School, fortunate enough to walk into Mr. Hollins’ class, and blessed to find among all of his fabulously energetic and creative students (and they were all awesome in their own unique ways and I just might write another blog about them, too) one illustrator — Inorri.

Be sure to leave a comment for Inorri. She’ll be glad you did!

May 30, 2012 at 12:49 pm 9 comments

One Chance to Tell You

If I only have this one chance to tell you, then I’ll send you to the living room couch to find him. He’s sitting on the end closest to the lamp so he can read the morning paper. On the overflowing bookshelf near his right elbow there’s a chipped Bayfield, WI coffee mug. The cooling coffee – brown not black, plenty of real cream, not milk, with a little sugar too – has already been refilled two times.

His brown and graying hair is still wet from his morning shower. He raises his arms in tandem, as if he’s stretching, and uses the fingers of his two hands to comb the soft, thin waves away from his face. There’s a small piece of toilet paper dotted red, clinging to the spot he nicked while shaving. He’s wearing tan pants and his favorite red and white Crazy Legs t-shirt. Beneath his white tennis shoes his feet rest on a small round braided rug. Grandma makes him sit there, with the rug beneath his feet, since he refuses to take his shoes off when he comes in from the garden. “Aahh”, he always tells her, “I wiped them.”

He’s listing to one side. The paper has fallen to his lap. His nose points ceiling-ward, his mouth is open and he is snoring. The big rimmed glasses resting on his nose are crooked because his head has fallen against the cushion at an odd angle. Grandma’s complaining. “If he didn’t get up and run 10 miles every morning maybe he wouldn’t need to nap when the rest of us are ready to get out and do something!” Maybe it’s her impatience that wakes him with a start, maybe it’s his giggling grandchildren jumping on the cushions. He bounces up from the couch, takes a last swig of coffee, and grabs the car keys from the hook near the phone. “Are we ready? Let’s go!”

If I only have this one chance to tell you, then I’ll send you to the church basement to find him. He’s in the kitchen, in front of the black 8 burner stove, a flowery apron tied around his waist to protect his church shirt and pants. The sleeves on his white shirt are rolled up to his elbows and his tie is tucked inside of the front, between the middle buttons, so it doesn’t get dirty.  He’s fried the bacon, drained the grease in the Folgers coffee can, and the scent fills the room. In one arm he cradles a huge silver bowl resting against his hip. In the other hand he holds a wooden spoon, scrambling the eggs. His eyes watch: the clock as it moves toward 8, the other men on his Easter Breakfast committee. He surveys the preparations, encourages the joyful chaos, and issues orders too. “Are the cinnamon rolls set out yet? How’s the coffee coming? They’ll be here soon; let’s get these eggs cooking!” Using the hem of his apron, he adjusts the handle of the hot frying pan and pours the frothy egg batter. One hand reaches into a drawer so he can set out the missing serving spoons, the other stirs, and he notices the first of the Easter Sunday breakfast eaters to arrive.  “Ah, you made it! Sit over there and I’ll bring you something to drink.” Handing off the stirring spoon to someone nearby, he puts a dish towel over his forearm and grabs the carafe. There’s a spring to his step on this new spring morning as he hurries to meet us at one of the long tables crowded into the small and musty basement. Holding the carafe high and away so it doesn’t spill on us, he pulls out Grandma’s brown and battered metal folding chair so she can sit first. He hustles to do the same for his three grandchildren – the ones who moments ago were complaining in the car. “Why do we have to get up so early on Easter morning? Can’t Grandpa just make eggs at home?”  The paper tablecloth has been pulled askew and he straightens it with a flourish. Then with a small bow he smiles and cries, “Happy Easter! Who wants juice?” Before we can answer our glasses are filled and he is turning to the door to welcome the newest arrivals. “Happy Easter!” his voice booms across the room again. Trays overflowing with rolls and bacon and eggs – one in each hand – begin appearing on the tables. Wiping spills and setting up more chairs, he swoops in and grabs the nearly empty trays and brings them back filled again – serving food, serving joy, serving. The people and their laughter, the hellos and sunrise greetings fill the room and swirl around him.

If I only have this one chance to tell you, then I’ll send you to the kitchen to find him. He’s sitting in his favorite chair at the head of the table. He’s leaning back, both hands behind his head, fingers clasped there, as he and ‘the boys’ talk about all of the important news – the Badgers, the Packers, the Brewers. Merrilee’s setting the table with the ‘good’ silverware. Laurel and Barbara plop dollops of cool whip on the jello, a leaf of lettuce under each jello square to make it a fancy salad. Grandchildren bring matchbox cars and my little ponies to their places at the table. He’s already mashed the potatoes for Grandma, the gravy bowl is full, and now Grandma’s pulling the pot roast from the oven and sets it in front of him, ready to be carved.  “Let’s pray.” he says as everyone finally sits down. Then he holds out his hands, one on each side, and takes the hand of the ones sitting closest to him. The circle forms, each one touching two. His barrel chest is pushed outward and he turns his head from one to the other, taking them all in – to the room, to the table, to his heart. He inhales deeply, lowers his chin, and sings loudly in his tenor voice. “Praise God from whom all blessings flow.”  His eyes smile and tear just a little as they take in his family. “Praise God from whom all blessings flow.”  He sings again.

If I only have this one chance to tell you, then I’ll send you to the hospice room to find him. “St. Peter’s coming,” he told us in a phone call. “I’m not sure exactly when, but he’s coming …for me.” He is propped up against pillows, dry chapped lips sipping slowly through a straw. It’s harder to swallow now and he chokes on the water. His son returns the glass to the tray and gently wipes his lips. He struggles to lift his bone-thin arms to push back the white hair at his temples but they are too weak, so his daughters do it for him – one on each side, whispering, soothing. The wedding ring on his finger is in danger of falling off, of getting lost because he’s lost so much weight but he did not take the ring off six years earlier when it was her time to go, and he will not take it off now.

The nurses helped him dress in his favorite red and white Crazy Legs t-shirt before we arrived. Now his son is hanging a Wisconsin Badgers flag to remind him the Rose Bowl is coming and he won’t want to miss it. His chin quivers when we tell him again how much we love him and he struggles to smile, then wink, instead.

When we were alone with him earlier – when he asked us, “Have I taken care of everything?”, when we told him everything was done, when we told him he could rest well – he told my husband, “It’s up to you now, Johnny.” We try hard not to cry but it’s impossible; and we realize he doesn’t see our tears anyway because his eyes have closed again.

It is Christmas Eve. His head rolls toward the door as his family begins to arrive. As he has filled our lives to overflowing for 90 years, so too do we fill his room. Thirty two children, grandchildren and great grandchildren have traveled from Texas and Wisconsin, New York, West Virginia, Illinois, and Georgia and are now crowded around his bed. Tears fill his eyes and he lets them fall as his wrinkled cheeks receive kisses and “Merry Christmas, Grandpa”.

We begin to sing – all of his favorite carols and hymns and the University of Wisconsin’s Varsity. Other patients on the floor push their wheelchairs past his room and stop and listen. He lifts his head from the pillow and the gray hair at the back sticks out in spiky angles. His daughters adjust the pillows so he can sit up straight. His mouth opens, then closes. He tries again. He inhales deeply; his lungs fill with air and he finally joins the family chorus, his tenor voice blending with ours, his chest rising and falling beneath the thin white sheet. “Joy to the world!” we sing. And he sings too. “Joy to the world.”

If I only have this one chance to tell you, then I’ll send you to heaven to find him. If you should get there before me, look for him outside in the garden. He’ll be with Virginia and Merrilee, Ruby, John and Howard, Nettie and Warren. Tell him that I miss him …. my father in law – John M. Black.

 

This was written for a writing class I took. The assignment was to develop a character — ‘show’ him or her, don’t tell ‘about’. How’d I do? I hope you feel like you know him now.

 

 

March 16, 2012 at 3:22 pm 3 comments

5th Grade Civil War Project

2-day residency with 5th graders.
Girls and boys are in separate classes.
They are studying the Civil War.

So after I told stories about the boys their age who found a way to enlist or sneak into the army and fight in the Civil War — either as buglers or drummer boys, flag bearers or possibly even given a musket — after I told stories about the women who were spies and nurses and disguised themselves as men to serve as soldiers — we brought it back to the girls their age (in the girl classes), the ones left behind to help on the farm or keep the family business going.
Their job was to be one of the girls left at home, worried about a brother or father or uncle. Those girls and their mothers might have been part of a quilting circle, making quilts for the soldiers. Some of those quilts were embroidered with inspirational messages before sent off.

The girls were given the (paper) quilt pieces and a pattern for putting them together. Then they were challenged to write a poem as their embroidered message. The poem was based on a Hopi poem I had found in the pattern of ‘Hold on to …. Even if ….’.

The ‘Even if ….’ part of the poem came from the stories they’d just heard about the boy soldiers — the heart of the Civil War, not just the facts.
The ‘Hold on to …’ part of the poem was their challenge — to put themselves into that time and place and encourage the boys to keep hope.

Wow. The quilts were gorgeous. The handwritten poetry was awesome.
Here’s what they shared when I returned a week later:

Hold on to the taste of Grandma’s warm cinnamon strudel.
Even if you have nothing to eat.

Hold on to the sound of your children laughing.
Even if all you can hear is bullets whizzing by.

Hold on to how hard you laughed when Aunt Isabella told that joke.
Even if you are scared to death.

Hold on to sunshine.
Even if the sky is filled with gray clouds.

Hold on to warm summer breezes.
Even if there are bullets in the air.

Hold on to hot apple pies.
Even if all you have to eat is hardtack.

Hold on to fireflies in June, and catching them in dusty peach jars.
Even if all the light is gone.

Hold on to skating on Mr. McGregor’s pond in the winter and going home to hot cocoa and cookies.
Even if the nights are dull and the food is scarce.

Hold on to our fun nights in the hayloft.
Even if your nights are on the ground.

Hold on to swimming in the river with your family when the birds chirped and laughter was everywhere.
Even if you are in battle with bullets whizzing by and blood on the ground.

Hold on to collecting leaves on a cool autumn day with your brothers.
Even if you are sweating in the hot sun or freezing on a cold night.

Hold on to last year’s Christmas dinner.
Even if all you get to eat is dry, crusty hard tack and goober peas.

Hold on to dancing in the firelight.
Even if there’s no fire keeping you warm tonight.

Hold on to planting the oak tree in the backyard and catching fish at the swimming hole and swinging on the old birch vine.
Hold on to the flowers we picked and the stones we skipped in the river and the day I beat you at checkers.
Hold on to the day you kissed your daughter and the songs we sang and the laughter of your family.
Hold on. Hold on.

               

March 14, 2012 at 10:30 pm 2 comments

3rd Graders Collect Family Stories

O.K.
This is long. And maybe it falls into the ‘You had to be there’ category. And it’s hard to capture magic on paper, but I’ll try.
I’m winding up an 8 week residency with 3rd graders. They read folktales from their country of origin. They found a folktale they wanted to tell — didn’t have to be from their country of origin. They’ve been learning to tell the tale and will share it with kids in younger grades next week.
As part of the project, they interviewed a family member to collect some of their family stories. I gave them a book with 10 questions. They were to interview one adult family member — ask a question, listen, ask more questions if they were curious, and only then write the interesting details. They could write in the book. Their family member could write in the book. They could take turns writing in the book.
One week later, the books came back.
The fun part was seeing both the kids’ and their family member’s handwriting in the book. For most of them — the ones that didn’t do a phone interview — it was truly a shared project.
Some kids drew illustrations. Others included photos of the person they were interviewing.
When I arrived they were so excited to share what they had learned. And they were tickled to have learned something new. And since they’d been learning all about how to tell stories, I had them share the ‘story’ — not the list they might have written and not what their family member wrote — but the story. They studied what they’d written for a moment, took a deep breath, and started to tell — hopefully the first of many tellings so that the family story becomes a true treasure often repeated. And they told with voice, and gestures, and facial expressions, and joy — applying all of those concepts from the folktales they’d been working on to this story too. It was truly an honor to witness it all.

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March 14, 2012 at 9:31 pm 1 comment

Who’s Teaching Who?

Working with the writers in my favorite 2nd grade class today:

Last time I was there, Olivia – whose father had just recently died of cancer, wrote a gorgeous true story about being sad, and a tree in her back yard where she likes to sit, and when the sun comes thru the branches she thinks about him and doesn’t feel alone.
Today she shared with me a fictional story about a girl named Elizabeth “who suffered a loss” (her words) and cried and cried and cried. Elizabeth didn’t eat or play or read or do anything fun. She just cried.
Then one day Elizabeth decided to make Tear Soup. It took 3 months of crying, but finally the soup was made and just as it was finished the doorbell rang.
A friend was there. Elizabeth told her “harshly” to go away. But later Elizabeth apologized for being mean and invited the friend in and they watched movies and read and went outside and laughed. They laughed and laughed.
After the friend left Elizabeth realized she had forgotten all about the Tear Soup. But she knew she would never forget her dad.

I am in awe of this second grader.
And the healing power of her stories.
And her ability to process her grief thru writing.
And the mother who kissed her good bye this morning with the words, “Have a good day, my brave girl.”
Brave, indeed, to put one foot in front of the other and navigate this world without her father.

After I caught my breath and finished taking it all in; after I looked again into Olivia’s eyes and saw the proud smile that reached there; after I told her how much I loved her story and her writing — I stepped out of the way … of the real storyteller in the room…… the one who takes risks and writes from the heart and is willing to share and is just brave enough to hope she will make it thru this …. so she could take her book to the school’s Publishing Center.
Yep, I just got out of the way. It was Olivia who taught me today.



December 2, 2011 at 5:12 pm 2 comments

Production Notes

I’ve been taking a writing class with Chicago’s 2nd Story. http://www.2ndstory.com/
They meet twice a month in a wine bar and read/tell their stories. Music is used to introduce stories as well as within stories.
Between stories a flight of wine is served by the storytellers so that they can interact with the audience.
Side note: they also produce multiple events in other venues around town, but Webster’s Wine Bar is ‘their’ place.
In addition to learning new stuff about the writing process and the 2nd story model in particular (1st person narrative, begin in action, dialogue, etc) and now totally understand the words “what you do doesn’t fit in with our aesthetic”, I’m learning how they produce events.
Not planning on talking again about personal stories vs folktales for adults and which one is ‘better’.
But since they produce differently than the typical ‘storytelling’ events I’ve been involved in, and are quite successful in the niche they’ve created, here’s what I’m  thinking today:
What I Like About the 2nd Story Production Model
1-A) They give great descriptions of exactly what their event is about. Folks don’t need to try to figure out what storytelling is. They know what they’re going to get before they walk thru the door.
Example:
We say that forgiveness is divine, but what about those we can’t forgive? Join 2nd Story this November as our tellers share stories of hating and being hated, of forgiving and being forgiven. From a young woman’s imaginary internet feud with a local celebrity, to man’s struggle to be at peace with the life and death of his alcoholic father, our tellers will guide you on a journey through the instinct to hate, and the challenge to forgive.
1-B) They know exactly what everyone will be telling before they arrive that night, thus enabling them to offer the specific description.
No teller/reader arrives, looks at the audience, and then decides what’s right.
Instead they tell their audiences in advance what stories will be told — drawing an audience that is interested in exactly, more or less, what they are offering.
2) They offer a descriptive title. Rather than ‘Storytelling Festival’ or even ‘Tellabration’ (no offense intended and not trying to stir the pot and get everyone riled up (but does anyone besides storytellers know what Tellabration means?)), they might say:

A Cold Day in Hell: Stories of Hatred and Forgiveness

3-A) They get the storytellers in a room, more than once, and coach the stories.

Required.
Must be available to coach to participate.
It’s being produced under the 2nd Story banner — they want quality assurance that it will reflect well on 2nd Story.
Yes, it is beautifully written — and they know this because the stories were pre-selected during an audition process. This audition process involved sending the story in via email, then showing up for a live reading.
Yes, perhaps you have told it before.
But this is 2nd Story where we want it to be more conversational than ‘performed’, where we want to get to the heart of the matter, where we want to make sure it moves from party anecdote to some sort of universal appeal, where we want your best. And maybe you haven’t even unearthed your ‘best’ in this story.
So now we’re going to refine the story — coach it, point out the good stuff, note the stuff that could be better, make sure it comes in on time, and coach the presentation.
Side note 1: This is practical and do-able for 2nd Story, because it is Chicago based — storytellers live locally.
Side note 2: Yes, they want it to fit into their mold — not going to argue that.
Side note 3: Yes, I recognize a ‘theatre’ mindset in the production process.
Side note 4: They’re never surprised by the story going over time or by the perhaps ‘wrong’ story choice for this audience.
In ‘our’ world, we’ve seen both.
Side note 5: Editorial: But as I sit in my class with the instructors who are telling me all about the 2nd Story model, who are coaching us in the 2nd Story art form, with (some) people who might want to tell in a 2nd Story event, I’m thinking: Wow, this has never happened with the storytelling events I know. I’ve been involved on both sides of the equation — festival, conference, event — producing and telling — and the process is always the same: story chosen, bring it, tell it. I’ve listened to audition tapes and thought, “I’d really like to choose this story for this event but it needs a bit of coaching”.
And ‘we’ don’t do that. So maybe the story is selected, but not coached. Maybe the story is not selected.
Either way, we’re not growing our audience if we go the first route and we’re not growing our storytellers if we go the second route. And in the end we’re not growing our art form.
4) They know who they are:
We tell our stories so you’ll tell yours.
5) They don’t shoot for the BIG audiences. They collaborate with small venues and fill them up.
They sell tickets in advance online for a reduced price in order to ‘guarantee’ seating. Yes, the venue is small. Yes, if you want a seat then plan on getting it early so as not to be disappointed at the door that night.
6) They do shoot for the sponsors and grants and have figured out how to make that happen. Note the bottom of their website with that information listed.
7) They’ve got an army of enthusiastic volunteers each taking a piece of the task and running with it — marketing, new site development, grant writing, sponsors, production, sound, music, website, podcast, etc, etc, etc
Side note: I haven’t yet figured out how they’ve energized and mobilized this army of worker bees, but that’s my next goal.
8) They offer a continuous stream of various classes.
Expounding nearly done:
9) I realize you can’t compare a national or state storytelling organization with a local Chicago one — apples, oranges, and all that.
But what can we take from this model and use to be better than we were before?
And for those of us working locally — who can get storytellers together before an event, or who are developing small venues, or are looking for new directions, or who are open to considering that we can join forces with other forms and models of ‘storytelling’ — what can we take from this model and use to be better than we were before?
Side note: Editorial: Assuming we do want to be better than we were before.
Wanna talk?
Let me know.

November 12, 2011 at 5:07 pm Leave a comment

The Junkyard Wonders – Storytelling for Bullying Prevention

“What some see as bent and broken throwaways are actually amazing things waiting to be made into something new. Something unexpected. Something surprising. Here’s your chance. Forget what the object was… imagine what it could be!”

For kids who feel different or odd – maybe only sometimes; maybe all the time.
For kids who shy away from ‘different’ classmates – maybe only sometimes; maybe all the time.
For your next family read-aloud (grade K-6) select Patricia Polacco’s newest book, The Junkyard Wonders.

November 3, 2011 at 7:06 pm 1 comment

Halloween Hobo — Storytelling for Bullying Prevention

Halloween Hobo
© Sue Black

When I was a little girl, every Halloween costume was the same as the year before. You see, my parents didn’t have a lot of money. And I had 3 brothers and 3 sisters so we couldn’t just pile in the car and go over to KMart and buy seven new costumes every year. Instead, we were told to “Go in the basement and find something to wear in the hand-me-down box”.
You know what a hand-me-down box is, right? It’s that big cardboard box down in the basement. The one overflowing with jumbled up, wrinkled clothes that your older cousins and your big brothers and sisters don’t fit into any more. Those clothes will be yours some day, as soon as you get a little bit bigger. That’s the hand-me-down box.
My brothers and sisters and I – Jeanne, Jo, Mark, John, Judy, Lenny, and Sue – we marched down into the basement, sure we’d find an awesome costume hiding in the hand-me-down box. We threw shirts and pants and skirts and dresses and underwear and socks and boots high into the air. We screamed when we saw something perfect. We ended up tugging and pulling clothes away from one another. By the time we were done, the end result was always the same as the year before. We were holding over sized shirts and worn out pants and boots with holes in the toes. The Below kids were going trick or treating as Halloween Hoboes again!
But one year was different. (more…)

September 28, 2011 at 4:31 pm Leave a comment

You and Me – Bully Free! Bullying Prevention Strategy for Today

You and Me – Bully Free! Bullying Prevention Strategy –

For kids:
When you experience or witness bully behavior take these steps:
(1)   Stay calm
(2)   Say ‘stop’ if you can
(3)   Walk away – not because you are ignoring the behavior but because you refuse to accept it
(4)   Talk to an adult at school and at home

For the adults in their lives:
When a child who has been targeted reports bully behavior to you:
(1)   Stay calm
(2)  Listen
(3)   Thank them for telling you
(4)   Communicate: “This isn’t your fault.”
(5)   Find out how they’ve handled it so far; brainstorm prevention strategies; find out how your child wants you to help
(6)   Provide ongoing supervision and structure to places bully behavior occurs
(7)  Remember that targets are chosen for their perceived inability to defend themselves. Be in it for the long term: remain observant, aware, involved, engaged — keep checking back with the target, the bystanders, and the one who bullies — model tolerance, inclusion, respect, and empathy

For the adults in their lives:
When you observe bully behavior:
(1)   Stay calm
(2)   Intervene immediately; don’t ignore it
(3)   Intervene even if unsure it is bullying
(4)   Be clear the behavior must stop
(5)   Compliment bystanders who have intervened; suggest future actions for bystanders who didn’t step in this time; send them off
(6)   Check in with the target to make sure he/she requires no immediate medical/physical care; assure him you’ll check in with him later; send him off; check in later – talk, listen, brainstorm, find out what you can do to help
(7)   Let the one who bullied know the behavior is not acceptable and must stop; implement appropriate consequences(this will vary based on your relationship to the child — and we’ll talk about this in a later post)
(8)   Provide ongoing supervision and structure to places bully behavior occurs
(9)  Remember that targets are chosen for their perceived inability to defend themselves. Be in it for the long term: remain observant, aware, involved, engaged — keep checking back with the target, the bystanders, and the one who bullies — model tolerance, inclusion, respect, and empathy

August 18, 2011 at 7:35 am Leave a comment

The Beautiful Princess — Storytelling for Bullying Prevention

Over 13,000 small islands in southeast Asia comprise the 4th largest country in the world –  Indonesia. If you travel to a place called Senuro Village on one of those islands, you may find the grave of Princess Senuro. This is her story.

Long, long ago a young woman of great kindness– Princess Pinang Masak – lived on the island of Sumatera. She was also beautiful, so beautiful that people throughout the island talked of her radiant face, exquisite eyes, enchanting hair, and delicate hands. She was unique among all the women of Sumatera but the people spoke not of her kindness, only her great beauty.  Everyone throughout the island heard of the beautiful Princess Pinang Masak. Many young men arrived at her door, asking her to be their bride. She had, so far, said no to them all.

Sumatera was ruled by a powerful man known as the Sultan of Sumatera. When word came to his palace that there was a princess  more gorgeous than any other on the far side of the island, the sultan decided, “She shall be my wife! Soldiers, bring the princess to me at once!”

Fortunately, word reached the princess that the sultan was sending soldiers. “No,” she cried. “No. I’ll not be forced to be the wife of one blinded by beauty. I’ll not be loved for that.” Princess Pinang Masak thought of how she could escape the soldiers … and she came up with a plan.
The princess collected dark, purple blooms from the banana tree and boiled them in a vat of water. As the water boiled it turned a deep maroon color. When the water cooled, the princess bathed in the dark liquid. She poured the water over her arms and neck, her shoulders and legs. She scrubbed her skin until it hurt. She held her breath and pushed her face beneath the water. She scoured her cheeks until they were raw. The princess did not stop until her skin looked streaked and dirty. Then she found dried grass and sticks and bugs and tangled her hair with them. After that she put on the filthy, ragged clothes of the village beggar. Her beauty had been ruined. (more…)

August 16, 2011 at 4:52 pm 2 comments

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